retire Graylog behind a flag, fix Caddy reloads, reap awsddns zombies

Graylog was the worst cost/benefit tenant on this 4-core box: two JVMs plus
MongoDB holding ~1.6 GB resident and ~3% CPU around the clock to store ~3k
messages a day -- about 28 MB across its four live indices. journald already
retains ~25 days of the same logs at its 500M cap, so this costs searchability,
not the logs.

The switch is `graylog_enabled` in inventory rather than a role default,
because three roles read it (common, podman, graylog-config). The disabled
path is an active teardown, not a skipped create: the containers already on
the host keep running and their systemd user units keep restarting them at
boot unless something stops and removes them. fluent-bit follows the same
flag -- with the GELF sink down it would spin retrying a dead 127.0.0.1:12202
and fill the journal it exists to drain -- but only the service state follows,
so re-enabling is a restart rather than a reinstall.

Caddy reloads were silently no-ops. The handler read /etc/caddy/Caddyfile,
which is a single-file bind mount, and podman binds those by inode; the
template module writes a temp file and renames it into place, so every deploy
gave the host file a new inode while the container kept seeing the one it was
created with. Config changes only ever landed when something recreated the
container. {{ caddy_path }}/config is also mounted, as a *directory*, and
directory mounts resolve names at open() time -- so /config/Caddyfile is
always the file Ansible just wrote.

awsddns and its four siblings had accumulated 12 zombies over 30 days of
uptime. The image's PID 1 is busybox crond, which only waitpid()s the job PIDs
it tracks and does no generic orphan reaping, so whenever the run-parts/sh
layer exited before the script it left a permanent <defunct>. init: true puts
catatonit at PID 1 to reap them, and the recreation clears the existing ones.

Also bumps fulfillr and greg-time-bot images.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5 (1M context) <noreply@anthropic.com>

ansible/roles/common/tasks/fluent-bit.yml

@@ -1,6 +1,12 @@
 ---
 # Fluent Bit - Log forwarder from journald to Graylog GELF
 # Deployed as systemd service (not container) for direct journal access
+#
+# Graylog's GELF input is fluent-bit's only output, so the two share a switch:
+# with the stack down fluent-bit would just spin retrying a dead 127.0.0.1:12202
+# and filling the journal it is meant to be draining. The package and config
+# stay installed either way -- only the service follows graylog_enabled (see
+# inventories/home/hosts.yml) -- so re-enabling is a restart, not a reinstall.
 
 - name: install fluent-bit package
   become: true
@@ -37,9 +43,9 @@
     mode: '0644'
   notify: restart fluent-bit
 
-- name: enable and start fluent-bit service
+- name: set fluent-bit service state to match graylog_enabled
   become: true
   ansible.builtin.systemd:
     name: fluent-bit
-    enabled: true
-    state: started
+    enabled: "{{ graylog_enabled | bool }}"
+    state: "{{ 'started' if (graylog_enabled | bool) else 'stopped' }}"